Get Uncomfortable

Tuesday, January 10, 2017


I cherish each moment I get to spend with my little family. 
One thing I have learned since being married is sacrifice. My husband and I are naturally so different and that often means that in order to spend time together, someone has to make a sacrifice.
The more I hang out with other married people the more I realize how this is a common issue. It doesn't have to be an issue but selfishness tends to take over and our own comfort becomes more important than time with those we love....


"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking....." 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 

Sometimes you just have to get uncomfortable to do what matters. Like spend time in the snow just to capture precious moments of your boys & husband having a blast. You see, I hate the snow! The only things I like cold are my beach, my drinks, & the car on long rides! So when it snowed, it felt better to let Nathaniel play with the boys while I stayed inside & I don't know, scrolled through Pinterest.

My husband likes the zoo & hiking while I prefer a coffee shop date. Noah is obsessed with cars & I just think they are for driving. Uriah & my new baby will also have their unique interests & most likely, they won't be the same as mine. I realize that each of my children will be so different from the other. How will I, as their mother, pursue each of their unique personalities if I don't know how to be selfless? Is spending time with my husband worth a little discomfort? He is always willing to sacrifice to do something with me like uh get a pedicure!

"So if you wanna live a comfortable life, make sure you never love nobody, be selfish, & never sacrifice..." Andy Mineo (Uncomfortable) 

These are my favorite lyrics to a hip hop song by Andy Mineo. How true? How convicting? What is your comfort worth? Never truly loving, because that requires selflessness...

So I decided a long time ago that even though I wasn't the biggest fan of certain things, my family was worth the small sacrifice. My desire to spend time with the people I love most is far greater than my dislike for the outdoors or the cold. Eventually I came to love it and now we all just get to love it together. 
If love is not self seeking and I really love someone, it is an easy choice to make, be selfless. That's what Jesus did for us. He literally left perfection for an imperfect people. He humbled Himself & gave His life because He saw us so worthy. We constantly live in the beauty of His selfless & sacrifice love. I want to love like Jesus, it has proven to be the right kind of love...

Selflessness is such a beautiful thing, especially in a family. It helps you embrace the diversity and blend together as one. Pursue love, genuine love, by pursuing others, loving them above yourself, & when it doesn't seem fun, remember the One Who showed us how worth it it actually is.

xoxo, Jalyssa

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